whitefang Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 You here have never really personally had the honor, privilege and pleasure of meeting my wife ALICIA, who sadly passed this past Tues. (Dec. 11)... But, as this is her favorite time of year, she'd hate that this news would dampen anyone's holiday spirit in any way. So, in honor, do your very best to have the best Christmas possible and love those close to you limitless, as she has always done. All of us in her family, and some who aren't, hope to do as well as we can this Christmas and beyond. Whitefang I started out with NOTHING...and I still have most of it left! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DocPate Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 @fang. My deepest and heartfelt condolences to you and your family during this time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skipclone 1 Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 Deepest condolences from Japan. Indeed the best tribute is to celebrate the good things. Same old surprises, brand new cliches- Skipsounds on Soundclick: www.soundclick.com/bands/pagemusic.cfm?bandid=602491 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winston Psmith Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 Whitefang, brother, I am deeply sorry. I promise to do as you ask, for her sake, and yours, just promise us you'll do the same. Wishing you peace, my friend. "Monsters are real, and Ghosts are real too. They live inside us, and sometimes, they win." Stephen King http://www.novparolo.com https://thewinstonpsmithproject.bandcamp.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larryz Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 Whitefang, I noticed your absence from the forum and thought about you and your wife. You were there every step of the way helping her with her medical issues as the best husband you could possibly be. You know you have my deepest condolences and best wishes. I lost my uncle, who was very close to me at this time of year back in '69 to the war in Viet Nam. I think of him every Christmas. Remembering him every year has become a part of my silent holiday, which has kept his spirit alive in my heart. I hope you will always have fond memories each and every year, of all the love you and your wife have shared together... Take care, Larryz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danzilla Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 White Fang, so sorry to hear about this. Praying peace and comfort on you in this time. No one leaves you when you live in their heart and mind... [video:youtube] "Am I enough of a freak to be worth paying to see?"- Separated Out (Marillion) NEW band Old band Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Song80s Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 Enjoy the sweet memories of the heart. my friend. She is an angel looking down at you always. Facing our mortality is tough and personal. One day, we will all meet at the Cocktail Bar in the Sky. Why fit in, when you were born to stand out ? My Soundcloud with many originals: [70's Songwriter] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delta Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 So sorry to hear Fang. All the best to you and your family through this difficult time. Try to remember the good times. Take Care. "Let me stand next to your fire!", Jimi Hendrix Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
p90jr Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 My deepest condolences, Fang. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimmac Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 I am so sorry to hear this. My sincere sympathy to all of your family. Jim Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
d halfnote Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 While we may seem at odds at times please understand this: The diffs between ppl are far less in fact than they often seem in our minds. We draw lines between ppl in 2 ways---lines that separate or lines that connect. I deeply empathize w/how you must feel but recognize that's pale comfort at best. "Words flow out like rain...into pools of sorrow..." "Drifting on a sea of heartbreak...sailing for yer love" "Crash on the levee, Mama, water's gonna overflow / go down in the flood, gonna be yer own fault sugar for sugar / salt for salt Oh yer gonna miss yer best friend / gonna have to find a new friend somehow" Words are sometimes just words. I think that, no matter how well-intended, philosophic platitudes, even from our closest friends & companions, don't make up the loss from those within our true Magic Circle....so I won't even try to sell you on anything except this: Music has always been my strength, as it may be for all of us unified here. To echo what DanZ wrote above, those who are alive in our hearts are as close as ever while they remain there. No matter how alone you may feel, do not be in haste to join those you may miss. That will happen inevitably, anyway. I suspect you were a strong support for her. Stay strong b/c no matter how much you may feel disheartened there may be others in your life who need you do be here for them. Be here for them & be here for yerself. [video:youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GppD40mdpYE If that don't help, I hope this might.... [video:youtube] d=halfnote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A String Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 My condolences to you are your family. Stay strong and lean on each other. Craig Stringnetwork on Facebook String Network Forum My Music Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dannyalcatraz Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 Condolences, Whiefang. My maternal Grandmother passed away on Christmas back in the 1980s, while we were en route to visit her and other family for the holiday. To this day, Christmas remains a very low time for my Mom. With time, I hope you and yours can handle your loss better. [video:youtube]https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=hMXaE9NtQgg Sturgeon's 2nd Law, a.k.a. Sturgeon's Revelation: âNinety percent of everything is crapâ My FLMS- Murphy's Music in Irving, Tx http://murphysmusictx.com/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desertbluesman Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 My condolences and my very best wishes for you and family during this difficult time amigo. I hope you and family have a very nice holiday season. Best Wishes. dbm If it sounds good, it is good !! http://www.soundclick.com/bands/default.cfm?bandID=143231&content=music Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
surfergirl Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 So sorry to hear that. Jennifer S. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitefang Posted December 18, 2018 Author Share Posted December 18, 2018 I thank all of you. And d? Alicia wasn't really all that much of a Beatles fan, but she did like "Across The Universe", and "In My Life" when she heard it as "the song" at my cousin's wedding. I only wish she were here to translate that London symphony/Hendrix clip for me.... Danny, my Mother passed a few days before Thanksgiving, '99, so I know how your Mother might feel. As for Christmas, lie I stated, it was Alicia's favorite time of year, and like also stated, she'd HATE for her passing to dampen our holiday spirit, and out of all of our deep love and respect for her, won't allow it to. anyway... I hope the following will help any understand what it means( or meant) to me. And I know that any of you that have a strong love for a spouse, mate, companion or whichever, will already understand.... When I first met Alicia, I was in such a dark place and foolishly thought I hid it well. But she saw it immediately and snatched me out of there so fast and held my heart so tight it was impossible for me to ever be able to, or even THINK about going back. So really, she saved my life. And even though she let go of life, her grip on my heart is still strong, and any grief I might feel is diluted by the fact she was in my life at all and the good fortune I had in her being in my life. And the good memories I and all the surviving "army" of nieces, nephews, sisters, cousins and down to mild acquaintances have will keep us all warm for years. She lost a younger sister to an aneurysm 28 years ago the thought of her being back together with her kind of softens the pain. Now, for some time now, people have used the phrase "soulmate" to describe a loved one. I always though the word was hackneyed and contrived. And in this case woefully inadequate. I'd have to say that Alicia was NEVER my "soulmate". She was my SOUL. I thank any and all who expressed condolences, and hope I don't have to return the favor for a LONG long time. Whitefang I started out with NOTHING...and I still have most of it left! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desertbluesman Posted December 18, 2018 Share Posted December 18, 2018 Well said Fang. She must have been a wonderful partner. RIP Alicia dbm If it sounds good, it is good !! http://www.soundclick.com/bands/default.cfm?bandID=143231&content=music Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitefang Posted December 19, 2018 Author Share Posted December 19, 2018 She was indeed DBM, and still is. And don't think her lack of physical presence has stopped me from STILL talking to her, saying "good morning" or "good night, sweetheart". Hell. I STILL say things to my Mother and Grandmother, who I like to think are having a wonderful time( wherever they may be, depending on what you believe) with Alicia now with them. In a way, I'm surprised my EARS haven't burst into flame! Whitefang I started out with NOTHING...and I still have most of it left! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scott Fraser Posted December 20, 2018 Share Posted December 20, 2018 Whitefang, I'm terribly saddened to hear this news. My heartfelt condolences, from one who's already had to bear that burden, so sorry, brother Scott Fraser Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
d halfnote Posted December 20, 2018 Share Posted December 20, 2018 WF, I perceive, has already recognized (& prolly before I or others suggested it) that the essential fact of live is to keep living. Persevere through severity. Never give up. d=halfnote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitefang Posted December 21, 2018 Author Share Posted December 21, 2018 Yep, all that and more... As she would hate that her passing dampens anyone's Christmas spirit, She would prefer that the sadness last as long as a day or so, then for us to get back to pressing on and often holding her(and any other lost loved ones) warmly in our hearts. Now, I of course(along with hr sisters) will probably be sad about it for many years to come, but I'll do my best to not let it rule my day to day existence. Whitefang I started out with NOTHING...and I still have most of it left! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harvey Posted December 23, 2018 Share Posted December 23, 2018 Hey Whitefang, So sorry to hear this news. I recall posts of yours speaking of caring for Alicia. Thinking of you brother. Guitar Speak Podcast www.guitarspeakpodcast.libsyn.com https://www.facebook.com/guitarspeakpodcast www.itunes.apple.com/au/podcast/guitar-speak-podcast Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
picker Posted December 23, 2018 Share Posted December 23, 2018 Oh man, I am so sorry to hear of this. Prayers... Always remember that you are unique. Just like everyone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hurricane hugo Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 [font:Comic Sans MS]Requiescat en pace, Alicia.[/font] http://blip.fm/invite/WorkRelease Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitefang Posted December 28, 2018 Author Share Posted December 28, 2018 Thanks, Hugo... As a wayward Catholic, Alicia might appreciate that. Whitefang I started out with NOTHING...and I still have most of it left! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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