Sam, I know both you guys and you make it work. Most other times I notice it has a negative influence on some bands. For some people it doesn't work and certain times there is some favoritism shown to a spouse, especially if they are married to the lead singer of the band. Other band members pick up on it and it can make them question leadership. Luckily it hasn't been too bad with one of the groups I play with. The temptations are part of human nature on the other hand, and the fact you spend a lot of time with that person. You just have to stand up to yourself.