Steve, First off condolences for your loss. I have spent my life in NC and mostly the Triangle Area. (Durham, Chapel Hill, Raleigh). There are many small surrounding communities that would be close enough to both work and the coast. Hilllsborough, Pittsboro, Carrboro are closer to Chapel Hill. That music scene in those areas has been vibrant for years and is a bit more eclectic with a younger influence. Durham downtown is really booming with new restaurants and music venues, but there are areas around Durham that are more dangerous. (Higher crime rate in Durham than surrounding towns.) Raleigh is more the new yuppie area of affluent young folks. Around Raleigh are many small towns. Cary, Apex, Fuquay Varina, (South) Wake Forest, Knightdale, Windell, (North East) Garner, and Clayton (East). You will want to see how the traffic flows to where ever you work because some areas are jammed up every day!!! Charlotte is much like Raleigh only on a larger scale. Hope this helps some, ALSO you may want to look at Oriental, NC to park your sailboat. I good friend/ guitar player just retired there because of his love for sailing year round.