TShakazBlackRoots Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Bless. I've just come out of a funeral service for my elder brother (the one I follow).....my biggest fan. We were called by his wife to take him to hospital on Friday at 4am as he wasn't breathing well. I'd just entered bed,I even complained wondering what the fuss was about. Anyway, I drove there and picked him up. He sat in the car with me, breathing badly, but talking. Boys in my family have a habit of 'swallowing' our problems, not wanting to bother others. I felt he wanted to say something but just kept quiet. I visited him in hospital on saturday, he was talking with oxygen tubes in his nose. I could tell he was scared. Will never forget that picture. Anyway, he died sunday morning (I come from a Born Again family, my mama says he accepted salvation the night before ). Over here, life is 'cheap'. People die so much, I even feel guilty to mourn my bro. I ain't the only one to lose a brother, I keep feeling. He was a lawyer, 35 yrs old and a brilliant mind with wit, full of jokes....right to his dying day. It hasn't sunk in yet, It's pure adrenalin in my veins. I'm simply scared how I'll react when it does. Pray for me. Thanx It Began In Afrika. https://www.facebook.com/BlackRootsUNLIMITED/ https://www.facebook.com/TanquerayAllMusicSafari/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil W Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Oh man, I will pray for you TShaka. That all seems so sudden! And he was so young. I'm sure it will all take a while to sink in; just take it really easy and look after yourself. Make sure you think about your own health as well as that of you loved ones, it may be easy to forget about that at in such tragic circumstances. Keep on keeping on! Phil http://philwbass.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BenLoy Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 That's so sad, TShaka...my thoughts and prayers are with you. He was so young, what happened? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
57pbass Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 My deepest condolences to you and your family... www.danielprine.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mro Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 That's very sad to read..May God be with you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danzilla Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Praying for peace and comfrot from The Spirit for you and your family, T. And like Phil says- make sure your own health is in order. Don't know what the issue was with your brother; hope it's not somehting hereditary/genetic. Stay safe! Life is a precious gift. "Am I enough of a freak to be worth paying to see?"- Separated Out (Marillion) NEW band Old band Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cloclo Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 i feel for you Tshaka don't worry about the 'feeling guilty' part. i mean it's about your brother, you have a right to mourn him. maybe you're not the only one to lose a brother but why should that keep you from mourning? anyway, what Phil said makes perfect sense: go to your friends and/or family for comfort and advice but at the same time don't forget yourself. good luck man! Marvelas Something Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Edendude Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 So so sad. My condolences. My Last Band Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owens hound Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 My thoughts are with you and your family. www.myspace.com/nobandatpresent Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TShakazBlackRoots Posted January 30, 2006 Author Share Posted January 30, 2006 Thank you all. I'll do my best. It's tough but I pray I do cope. Docs say he got a chest infection. On friday they said severe pnemonia and a possiblity of Tuberclosis! Pure confusion but I'll grasp it all another day. Bless It Began In Afrika. https://www.facebook.com/BlackRootsUNLIMITED/ https://www.facebook.com/TanquerayAllMusicSafari/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kenfxj Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 My thoughts and prayers are with you. Push the button Frank. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jeremy c Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 We're all with you, Tshaka. Free download of my cd!. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moot Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Allow yourself to feel it all my brother. It is the only path to peace. Be well. "He is to music what Stevie Wonder is to photography." getz76 I have nothing nice to say so . . . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lug Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 My prayers to you and your family. Don't dare feel guilty about anything, you've suffered a terrible lose. I pray your family gathers and supports each other in this time of need. You can stop now -jeremyc STOP QUOTING EVERY THING I SAY!!! -Bass_god_offspring lug, you should add that statement to you signature.-Tenstrum I'm not sure any argument can top lug's. - Sweet Willie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonnie u Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Its in my opinion that we all must adopt a "soldier" style exsistance while we are here on earth - Good and Bad will come upon us all in this life( often more good than bad), such is life. I recently ushered my dear loving mother to her final resting place. and i too saw the fear and finality,but i choose to turn the channel on the bad,, and remember the laughs,..... But i still give thanks and praise daily for the gift that is life, the breath of life. stand firm my brother do not let death consume you, live on with vigor everytime the negetive defeated lost feelings of missing my mother try to invade me I can hear her saying " boy,,,dont you sit around crying about me , get out there and "show em how WE do it" TSHAKA my deepest condolences go out to you and yours "keep your head to the sky" by Earth Wind and FIre is a cool song to ease the pain with a handle like SHAKA says to me that you are a AFRICAN warrior,........ warrior spirit............ - J.U Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicklab Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 My thoughts are with you and your family TShaka. Obligatory Social Media Link "My concern is, and I have to, uh, check with my accountant, that this might bump me into a higher, uh, tax..." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kendrix Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Its really hard when it comes as a total surprise- like it did with my dad. Your bro was way too young to have this happen. Time will help - some. Check out some tunes here: http://www.garageband.com/artist/KenFava Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fingertalkin Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take the time to grieve for your brother. Through grieving is healing. How do you sign a computer screen? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SteveC Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 I'm sorry for your loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexclaber Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Too young. But be glad you knew him as long as you did. Once the shock has passed many other feelings will follow - be open, do not fight the process but be strong for your sake, and for your family. Maybe this will help, it did me: ---------------------------- Death is nothing at all by Henry Scott Holland I have only slipped away into the next room. I am I and you are you. Whatever we were to each other, that we still are. Call me by my old familiar name. Speak to me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference in your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of a shadow on it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolutely unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner. All is well. ------------------------------- You're not alone brother, we are thinking of you. Alex Barefaced Ltd - ultra lightweight, high ouput, toneful bass cabs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Brown Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Prayer to you, TShaka. Don't be shocked at any feeling that is coming now; you'll go through a ton of them before you come out clean on the other side. If you can get to a library and find a copy of "A Grief Observed" by CS Lewis, you might find insight in that. Lewis, a confirmed bachelor, married late in life, and his new, younger wife almost immediately died from painful bone cancer. He took whatever paper was on hand (4 notebooks) and isolated himself and wrote all his honest feelings, his anger, separation, loss. After the notebooks were filled, his grieving was over. The book is a compilation of those notebooks. Love to you, and your family. Strength to you as you undertake this new role in your family. Yep. I'm the other voice in the head of davebrownbass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sanch Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 My sympathies to you bro, I'm sorry. My prayers are with you. It's all about the bottom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saxofunk Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Condolences and prayer to you TShaka. - Matt W. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Geoff Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 I can add no further eloquent words to what is above, save to say you are in my thoughts. Geoff "When the power of love overcomes the love of power the World will know Peace": Jimi Hendrix http://www.soundclick.com/bands/default.cfm?bandID=738517&content=music The Geoff - blame Caevan!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Fonz Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 wow. i'll light a candle for you friend. be true to yourself and don't feel bad about mourning, this is a tough pill for anyone to swallow. Eeeeeehhhhhhhhh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seamy ALB Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 I am sorry for You and your Familys loss Tshakaz, you are in my thoughts. Take care man!! http://www.facebook.com/pages/A-Little-Bitter/185235472447 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eric VB Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 I will pray for you, as you asked, my bass-brother. (I would have even had you not.) I lost my next-in-line older brother in 1997, when he was 33, also quickly and quite unexpectedly. I won't lie to you; this pain will be with you for a long time, though it becomes more manageable over time. During the initial numbness I found strength in my faith and family, and it sounds as if you have as well. Do not deny your mourning; embrace it, but do not lose yourself. Do not forget there are many people yet alive that love you dearly. Not tomorrow, probably, but one day you will find peace to really live again, to share the blessing of your life with everyone. To shine. May you find peace, my brother. Here's the lyrics I was inspired to write (I lost my mother only months later): Brother, where ya goin' to? Are ya goin' Home now, can I go with you? Brother, you know I can't go too. It would break our mother's heart. I will try, to carry on. I'll get by; I'll be strong. Mother, where ya goin' to? And if you told me, would I let you go? Mother, you know I love you too. I'll see you when I'm called Home. I will try, to carry on. I'll get by; I'll be strong. Father, what am I to do? I'd be so lost now, without You. Father, I'll be true to You. You are my strength, You keep me whole. I won't need to try, to carry on. With You by my side, I am strong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gruuve Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, my friend. Dave Old bass players never die, they just buy lighter rigs. - Tom Capasso, 11/9/2006 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jlrush Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 A prayer has already been said for you TShaka. May you and your family find new strength through this tragedy. Visit my band's new web site. www.themojoroots.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LizzyD Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 My deepest sympathies. My site | Facebook Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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