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George88

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  1. 'I am currently following CDC guidelines on social distancing to prevent the spread of disease. I really want to play with you guys, I want to stay with the band, and if you go on without me, I would totally understand. If, when I'm ready, you still don't have a keyboard player and you want me, I'm in. Keep me posted."

     

    I would say that.

     

     

    You may welcome a loud guitar player when this is over....

  2. Condolences, Josh. I was a fan and can only imagine how you must feel. Sounds like you had a wonderful, life-changing experience studying with Ellis. No doubt he touched and inspired many like you. Thanks for sharing with us here.
  3. Ellis was a fantastic player and teacher. In 1990, he and Wynton recoded together on Standard Time Volume 3. On it he plays a beautiful solo of My Romance, just one chorus. I was inspired by this take and have listened to this album many, many times. He was a giant.
  4. Dude, you worked with a great singer. I don"t know what he was like as a boss and am sorry to hear of his passing. I didn"t appreciate him until he was off the radio; he is one of the 90s icons I have great respect for.
  5. Hey IK/Hammond. I know you follow my posts for good ideas so here is another one. It would be cool to have the option of setting the leslie control on only one of the 2 manuals. So for example chorale on the bottom, tremelo on top. Brake on either one.

     

     

    Can"t wait for April 1st?

  6. Noted. Perhaps your first post was all you cared to elaborate. That is absolutely fair.

     

    It took me years to tell people no and not get sucked into drama. Eric Berne"s book, 'Games People Play' helped me a lot.

     

    Another thing I had to learn, thanks to Dialectal Behavior Therapy skills, is allowing my rational and emotional brain to inform my decisions. I have since discovered boundaries sometime cause crisis, and crisis often leads to boundaries.

     

    I digress.

     

    I appreciate the thread and an opportunity to explore another side of our experiences.

  7. Many of us are codependent to some degree. Setting boundaries sounds wrong so we don"t speak up. This can lead to deep and persistent resentment in addition to chronic invalidation of ourselves. Like when we don"t tell a band member how we feel so we don"t 'rock the boat.' Relationships in general are tough. Maintaining healthy boundaries and limits can be quite helpful. How someone responds to our reasonable requests doesn"t mean we don"t have the right to a make a request. The worst thing we can do is to stop asking because we are afraid of how others will react. This is classic care-taking. Melonie Beattie has some good literature about this.

     

    Dan, your story in particular about not abandoning someone despite how much drama they stir up or pain they inflict particularly resonates with me. Night in shining armor syndrome just drags out our enabling and resentment:

     

    'Why won"t he/she change??'

     

    Why would they if they have you around?

  8. It"s a global heath crisis, Dan. Sacrifices are made for the greater good. At the start of this crisis, it was reasonable to think if you haven"t traveled to China or been in contact with those who have, you were safe. That has changed.

     

    Your narrative about the grapes illustrates the need to change behaviors perfectly AND going to a restaurant is not safe either. Exceptions to rules and preventative measures in healthcare is how people get sick.

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