Hey Craig!
2 cents:
Take comfort in knowing the number of folks both working at a high level in the field *and* making how-to videos is extremely small, if existent.
You can teach how to make things 'sound right' you cannot teach how to make things 'feel right' and as you've clearer stated, that's absent from every 'LUFS chart' or 'EQ template' I've seen to date.....sample size of one.
Be well - hope to see you again in PERSON some day!!
--Steph