Blue Strat Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Ok, I've been sitting at home every night for months (I know, my life sucks). I don't do the bar scene. The few times I've been in night clubs or bars (including a titty-bar, not as great as you'd think) I was choking on smoke the whole damn time and my eyes were watering and it just wasn't a pleasant experience for me. What is there to do after 9pm that doesn't involve smoke and a bunch of friggin' drunks, but does involve lots of lovely ladies that aren't stuck up? BlueStrat a.k.a. "El Guapo" ...Better fuzz through science... http://geocities.com/teleman28056/index.html Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bbach1 Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Blue, that's and age old question for single men. Single women are wondering the same thing about meeting men. Bars are just not the scene. Sittin home can get old too, even with a beautiful blue strat. Sometimes other activities help, such as bowling leagues, dart leagues, etc that get you out socializing. (dart leagues probably take you right back into the bar scene, but it was just a suggestion). If it's dates you want, just walk up to every cute lady you see and ask for a date. It's a numbers game, that's all it is. If you ask 100 girls out on a date and 5 say yes, who cares if all the others tell you to f-off. It's just a numbers thing. With a date, you got a lot more going for you, such as dinner, sex, movies, sex, shopping, sex, etc. Of course, with that attitude I'll probably get slammed. bbach Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Compact Diss Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Blue, you need a new attitude. Self-esteem. Confidence. How about online dating services?? How about volunteering somewhere? Singles dances, cruises?? In Boston these type of events are always going on. Get a bunch of guys together or one other and head out to one of these singles nights, shit I still want to go and I'm married. Nothing seems more enticing than a bunch of single women who are out for the sole purpose to meet somebody for a relationship or to get laid. I've DJ'ed at a strip bar, those places are only going to get you depressed, drunk and broke. I just feel you need to cheer up. I read your posts and you are always moping about yourself, if you are like that in "real life" then women will have a hard time finding anything about you to like if all you say is "nobody loves me" and all that nonsense. I see you do the church thing. God's will buddy, not yours. Tomorrow wake up and say it's your will if you want me to meet someone today or not. Thy will, not yours be done, leave it up to him and things will work out, just give him a few days...(you know I'm no Holy Roller but it is true and it does work) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuperFreak Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Originally posted by bluestrat: What is there to do after 9pm that doesn't involve smoke and a bunch of friggin' drunks, but does involve lots of lovely ladies that aren't stuck up?1) Porn movies. 2) Church. (Not my scene, but hey...you never know!) I hear your pain man. Trust me, as we age...single or married...the options for a good night out decrease in direct proportion to the increase in scrotum-sag!!! There must be likeminded people thinking the exact same thing in your area. Seek them out. Or better yet, organise something if there isn't already something in place! Then you can take all the credit, and those lovelies will be forever indebted! How can we fight ignorance and apathy? Who knows! Who cares! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doc taz Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Same boat as you, blue. You know what? I think I'll start going to some things like poetry readings, museum groups and other stuff... thankfully, a lot of the clubs in NYC are under the smoking ban, so I don't have to deal with tobacco smoke much anymore. With that said, I'm just trying to put my hand in nonmusical activities as much as I can. It's hard for guy like me wanting to be in a prog band. Sure, there are lots that do the Pink Floyd/Yes thing, but I'm not much interested in that. I like more modern prog... something like Dream Theater, but with less emphasis on the soloing, and more on the songs. Going around some of the online boards that pertain to stuff I like has given me some hope. I gotta try to hook up with some of 'em! There are females out there that have similar musical tastes as me, and some of them play, too. Just haven't found one that plays locally yet. The good thing about me, though, is that I'm probably willing to play anything, as long as it's about having a good time with the music. Just don't ask me to play any emo, or numetal, though I'll admit that I now like some bands from those genres. sevenstring.org profile my flickr page Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BiC Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Hey, I met my beautiful Wife through an online Christian dating service! "Treat your wife with honor, respect, and understanding as you live together so that you can pray effectively as husband and wife." 1 Peter 3:7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corner Pocket Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 The Dr. Phil line on this is to put yourself "in a target rich envirnoment" If the kind of girl you're looking for works at a tittie bar, then go to a tittie bar. The problem with online dating services is that the price of admission to the game is "has access to and can use a computer." That includes homeless folks using a public computer in a library. There is a dating service online called, (I think), millionairematch.com. The idea to to introduce millionaires to each other. But did you know that some people who register are not actually millionaires themselves? They are just trying to meet and marry a millionaire. It seems some people do not represent themselves accurately and fairly when sheilded by a computer. (Good on ya BIC for beating the odds, but let me change one word on ya. Long distance relationships *can* work. There is no guarantee that they *do* work.) I'm not a church going type, but church is good. I volunteer in a local elementary school one day a week. I'm happily married, but there are lots of lovely women there. If you gain the confidence of a teacher, you may get the inside scoop on who is a single mother, and who isn't. Remember the three words: "Target Rich Environment." Paul Peace, Paul ---------------------- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tedster Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 I like the ideas Taz put forth...museums, poetry readings. If church groups might be your thing, that's something to try. Here's another idea...if there's a local community college or adult enrichment program, take a course or two. Foreign language classes are always nice, because they encourage participation and interaction between class members (you're not just sitting listening to lectures). If you have the qualifications, you may even wish to teach a course. Heck, I teach a beginners' guitar course through the local high school. It's a lot of fun...and you never know who you'll meet. "Cisco Kid, was a friend of mine" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Base Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Are there no forumites who could set you up on a blind date??? Fa Fa FA Fa fa fa fa fa FA fa FA FA Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Billster Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 I recommend the church since your involved there. I like the suggestion for community college classes, because you will meet people with similar interests (they are taking the same class). Besides, even if you don't meet a nice lady, you might make other friends, and you at least learn about something. Museums: A local liquor store here does wine tasting nights about once a month. The Home Depot does seminars on various things like decorative painting and woodworking. Add libraries to your haunts. Even the supermarket. Just be friendly and willing to help folks you encounter anywhere. And finally, put the word out. Anyone in your circle might know someone who knows someone who needs a close pal. Buy my CD on CD Baby! Bill Hartzell - the website MySpace?!?! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mach1mike Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 I met my wife at church also. So you might already be in the right place. And maybe you could try a different church than you normally go to. God Favors no Group, Only Religions Do That Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Base Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 A thread about the best place to pick up women. Answered by musicians. Guitar players, no less... Who in the WORLD would have expected the most frequent answer to be... CHURCH!?!? Fa Fa FA Fa fa fa fa fa FA fa FA FA Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darklava Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 I was married 20yr's and let out on good behavior, and now it's nothing but guitars for me,and I'm happy.It will be awhile before I look for a relationship.I hope next time it will be somebody I have something in common with.Women are hard work,and I already have a J O B. Good luck to you blue,hope you find your soul mate.I have,it's a flame top Les Paul The story of life is quicker then the blink of an eye, the story of love is hello, goodbye. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimK Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Originally posted by bluestrat: What is there to do after 9pm that doesn't involve smoke and a bunch of friggin' drunks, but does involve lots of lovely ladies that aren't stuck up?yoga. 30 women to 1 guy. And it's good for you too! In an effort to improve the responsiveness of e-mail for everyone, the e-mail servers will be out of service. We are hopeful that this change will improve the performance of e-mail. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mike Gug Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 I like the yoga idea! If I was single, and thank God I'm not, my choice would be easy. Volunteering and churches. The bigger the better. Mikegug www.facebook.com/theresistancemusic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bbach1 Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Originally posted by JimK: Originally posted by bluestrat: What is there to do after 9pm that doesn't involve smoke and a bunch of friggin' drunks, but does involve lots of lovely ladies that aren't stuck up?yoga. 30 women to 1 guy. And it's good for you too! Yea, but they all meditate over everything. bbach Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bbach1 Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Originally posted by Compact Diss: I see you do the church thing. God's will buddy, not yours. Tomorrow wake up and say it's your will if you want me to meet someone today or not. Thy will, not yours be done, leave it up to him and things will work out, just give him a few days...(you know I'm no Holy Roller but it is true and it does work)No God that I've ever prayed to did the activities for me while I sat home. It's not God's will, it's yours. Make something happen. If God is indeed good, He will love you. You don't need to fet about whose will is whose. You know what Nike says "just do it". bbach Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NMcGuitar Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 A lot of good replies here. If you'll notice, the common in thread in most of them is "get involved in something". That's doubly good, because even if you're not finding Ms Right, you're still doing something that is enriching your life somehow. One thing that seems to be true, and I don't know why, is that usually the worst possible way to find a releationship, is to look for one. [Maybe there's some cosmic law, or something ]. So just enjoy yourself & what you're doing, and before you know it some sweet, young, beautiful, rich, guitar-playing, bluestrat-worshiping goddess will drop right into your lap. Seriously though, when you're just being yourself & doing the things that you do, that's when you'll really connect with someone. Good luck! May all your thoughts be random! - Neil www.McFaddenArts.com www.MikesGarageRocks.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caevan O’Shite Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 After seeing a recent "Conan O'Brien", I'm convinced that you should begin hanging out at air-guitar competitions, maybe let on that you'd be a great technical advisor and roadie... !! Seriously, any and all group events and activities that involve subjects you're interested in are good places to make friends of all types, and that's where to begin making thoise extra special friendships and bonding-type relationships that can become upper-case, capital-"R" Relationships, that can stand the tests of time... Ask yourself- What Would Ren and Stimpy Do? ~ Caevan James-Michael Miller-O'Shite ~ _ ___ _ Leprechaun, Esquire _ ___ _ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bbach1 Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Originally posted by NMcGuitar: A lot of good replies here. If you'll notice, the common in thread in most of them is "get involved in something". That's doubly good, because even if you're not finding Ms Right, you're still doing something that is enriching your life somehow. One thing that seems to be true, and I don't know why, is that usually the worst possible way to find a releationship, is to look for one. [Maybe there's some cosmic law, or something ]. So just enjoy yourself & what you're doing, and before you know it some sweet, young, beautiful, rich, guitar-playing, bluestrat-worshiping goddess will drop right into your lap. Seriously though, when you're just being yourself & doing the things that you do, that's when you'll really connect with someone. Good luck! You speak wisely oh Kimosabi. Indeed it does seem like friends and lovers are found when you are least expecting it. However, maximum exposure can help (Blue, that doesn't mean you should run around naked, because unless you are Britney Spears you will be arrested). Just like looking for a job. Let everyone know you are lookin for friends. It is amazing how well it works. bbach Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
revolead Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Blue - one word: College Seriously, that's the only place to meet people I've found. I've never met anyone outside school, and I never cared to. The women you pick up in bars are not my type. The women in clubs are not my type. I find it best to just go to classes, check out stock (forgive the crude phrase ), and make some options. For instance, I think I had it too easy. I'm a journalism major, which means the guyn to girl ratio is already like 3 to 1. Well, then my class somehow ended up being a ratio of 19 to 1. There were nineteen girls and me. Thing was, I never thought any of them were my type, so I guess you should all slap me, since I've got more connections than anyone on this forum and have yet to use them. I tried the long distance thing once, but I'm not sure it worked well. I didn't not work though, I just knew she wasn't "the one." And there is hope for everyone. You just have to look. And for the people like BiC and I, God does work in mysterious ways. Right now, I really like a girl who happens to be a friend of a friend, and now she's a good friend of mine. She's a few years younger though (this is a problem when you're nineteen), so for now I'll just have to wait it out. Anyway, good luck bluestrat, and just remember you aren't a loser. I know plenty of girls who'd dig your character. Shut up and play. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Compact Diss Posted June 26, 2004 Share Posted June 26, 2004 No God that I've ever prayed to did the activities for me while I sat home. It's not God's will, it's yours. Make something happen. If God is indeed good, He will love you. You don't need to fet about whose will is whose. You know what Nike says "just do it". True no God does anything for us, we all need to do the footwork, God just does the things for us we cannot do for ourselves. We cannot make anyone love us no matter how hard we try, just ask my ex-wife..if it was God's will for us to be together it would have happened. It wasn't meant to be. I meant for Blue to ask/to be lead/to find the answer to what God's will is for him. It might be to volunteer at an MS Walk and there he meets another walker and falls in love. It might be to volunteer at his church and become a full time volunteer and live happily with the Lord--whatever. We need to do what we feel is good and what we think is God's will for us, to do otherwise just gets us in trouble and depressed and messed up--whatever not the board for this God talk. Bottom Line: Do good things and good things happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Flier Posted June 26, 2004 Share Posted June 26, 2004 Originally posted by cwfno: Originally posted by JimK: yoga. 30 women to 1 guy. And it's good for you too! Yea, but they all meditate over everything.One word: Lingam. Look into it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Strat Posted June 26, 2004 Author Share Posted June 26, 2004 Lingam ROCKS!! BlueStrat a.k.a. "El Guapo" ...Better fuzz through science... http://geocities.com/teleman28056/index.html Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bbach1 Posted June 26, 2004 Share Posted June 26, 2004 Originally posted by Lee Flier: Originally posted by cwfno: Originally posted by JimK: yoga. 30 women to 1 guy. And it's good for you too! Yea, but they all meditate over everything.One word: Lingam. Look into it.Just can't get that serious about life Lee. Thanks tho. bbach Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
picker Posted June 26, 2004 Share Posted June 26, 2004 Wish I knew what to tell you, dude, but I'm in a worse boat than you. I have Woody Allen Syndrome, which is the inescapable conviction that something must be terribly wrong with a woman who would have you. My condition is not improved by the fact that history backs it up; there HAS been something wrong with every woman I was every serious about. No kidding, from the little girl who beat the crap out of me in front of the entire kindergarten class to my ex-wife and all stops between, I have had a run of psychos that might be worth contacting the Guiness World Record people about. I would love to meet someone, but I have pretty much resigned myself to living the way I am for the rest of my life. And frankly, that would be better than what I had to deal with when I was trying to meet Miss Goodbar. But in the words of Jimi, that's okay, I still got my guitar... Always remember that you are unique. Just like everyone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shannon Posted June 26, 2004 Share Posted June 26, 2004 I have two words......... ROCK STAR... Hey you already have a blue strat Seriously it has worked for many a man before you. Don't know what it is about a man that kicks ass on guitar in front of several thousand people.... but it's hot Just practice like crazy and find a good band. Be the mysterious but sexy lead guitarist.... see Jimmy Page avatar... women will fall at your feet Okay I'm clueless on the whole where to find someone cool thing... but its a nice fantasy to work towards and it has worked before... no one's ever heard of these guys... suddenly they're headlining huge venues and women are stripping in hotel hallways Public Service Announcement for DETERMINATION Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Strat Posted June 26, 2004 Author Share Posted June 26, 2004 Originally posted by Shannon: I have two words......... ROCK STAR... Hey you already have a blue strat I'm kind of working towards getting a band going. My rythym guitarist is graduating UNCC this coming week, and after that we'll have a bit more time to practice, although our drummer still has a couple of semesters to go. Our bass player went back to Bosnia. So today, on the way out of Guitar Center, we were looking at the want ads board that's posted at the door. There were a couple of folks that wanted to start something in the grunge/hard rock genres that we're interested in. I'm between jobs next week, and I'm planning on making another trip to GC to audition a small bass amp (for when I start my new job and earn the money. ) This time I'll get a few of those phone numbers. BlueStrat a.k.a. "El Guapo" ...Better fuzz through science... http://geocities.com/teleman28056/index.html Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mike Gug Posted June 26, 2004 Share Posted June 26, 2004 OK, one more idea. I've never been hit on so hard by women the three times I went to small clubs to watch the guitar work of a particular player. Not ONCE did I look around and check out the women. I'm married anyway. I was bent on watching guitar playing technique. By the middle of each second set, I was being pursued, HEAVILY. I'm not ugly, but I SPECIFICALLY was there for guitar research. My buddy, the rock star does the mysterious lead guitar player thing and does the same thing in clubs. Grabs a seeat and doesn't move. No sudden movements etc... Plays it VERY cool and the chicks come to him. It's attitude and dress for him. He's a good-looking guy (so says my sister...) And he's got the chops of worldwide, 300 dates a year tours to back it up. But you know what, these women usually aren't the keeper types. Get your ass to a big church. OR... Lee, meet Blue. Blue, Lee. Mikegug www.facebook.com/theresistancemusic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Flier Posted June 26, 2004 Share Posted June 26, 2004 Originally posted by cwfno: Originally posted by Lee Flier: Originally posted by cwfno: quote:Originally posted by JimK: yoga. 30 women to 1 guy. And it's good for you too! Yea, but they all meditate over everything.One word: Lingam. Look into it.Just can't get that serious about life Lee. Thanks tho. Sorry it was a joke. I didn't think you'd mind a bunch of women meditating over your lingam. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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