James-Italy Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 My wife is very supportive of my singing. She's always pushing me to sing whenever there's the opportunity. She even likes most of my originals, even knows a few by heart so she's not all cold. But as far as my guitar playing goes.... well, let's just say the only feedback I usually get are comments like, "Can't you turn that down!", "Are you trying to play (fill in the blank)? Well, the original sure sounds much better than you." "Geez, even though you're wearing headphones I'm still getting a headache" But today, while I was jamming to a blues CD she came into the den and said- "That's not you playing is it? I mean it's really good." I had a shit eatin' grin and told her (with lots of pride)- "Yeah it's me." She couldn't let it lie at that and replied, "Well, at least all those lessons are paying off." I'll take it, though. First compliment ever on my guitar playing when I wasn't singing along, from my second harshest critic. (The first of course is me.) It's finally starting to click all this lead stuff. YEAH MAN! My Gear My Attempts at Music Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caevan O’Shite Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 Cool! Now if you could only get her to compliment the shrewd deals you've cut on those guitars... ! Ask yourself- What Would Ren and Stimpy Do? ~ Caevan James-Michael Miller-O'Shite ~ _ ___ _ Leprechaun, Esquire _ ___ _ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve LeBlanc Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 My wife does nothing but tell me what sucks about my playing...that's her job and I love her for it. http://www.youtube.com/notesleb Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James-Italy Posted August 19, 2003 Author Share Posted August 19, 2003 Actually, I've only got 5 out on the rack. The others are hidden in the closet. I pulled the Wolfgang out of the closet and had the case on the floor when she came in. She gave a glance at the opened case, then at the full rack, and said, "I knew you had more stashed away somewhere....." (busted) Probably gonna cost me something, but after she gave me a compliment I don't mind. My Gear My Attempts at Music Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James-Italy Posted August 19, 2003 Author Share Posted August 19, 2003 Originally posted by Stephen LeBlanc: My wife does nothing but tell me what sucks about my playing...that's her job and I love her for it.Nothin' like supportive wives, eh? My Gear My Attempts at Music Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve LeBlanc Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 haha, nah, I know she really digs my music and playing, she's very musical so I have a ton of respect for her opinion...Soo...I really do count on her being critical of my playing, keeps me focused on improving. She's also an excellent Muse. If she were to shower me with compliments it would really push my ego over the edge, in a bad way and she knows it. haha...I'm mostly kidding around...I do count on her critical advice though. Love my Wife. http://www.youtube.com/notesleb Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NMcGuitar Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 Congrats on the compliment, James! May all your thoughts be random! - Neil www.McFaddenArts.com www.MikesGarageRocks.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Flier Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 Originally posted by Stephen LeBlanc: My wife does nothing but tell me what sucks about my playing...that's her job and I love her for it.She must not tell you much then, cuz I don't hear nuthin that sucks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GetOffTheStageYouSuck Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 Man, my wife knows whe stepped deep in the shit recently... I make a point of working on one or two songs between visits of her family, mostly so that I can entertain her nephew. He's learning how to play the guitar too and I've been trying to get him motivated and all the mother-types are like "Oh, Michael's SO nice for helping out Kurt." So I'm there [playing quietly on an acoustic] starting to show him Norwegian Wood and my mother-in-law decides that then is a good time to start opening presents and everybody starts talking over me but I don't really mind because I'm just showing Kurt, right? And then my wife starts telling me to stop playing because it's getting in the way. Now I've *always* been super-supportive of her playing, bought her an $11k grand piano [she teaches piano, we have two now] and have always encouraged her to play in front of people. So I stopped playing but I gave her no end of shit afterwards, telling her basically that she was the one who had made a judgement call: it was more important to "make nice" than to "make music" and she was being a big hippocrit. So you guys who are getting grief from your wives need to remember that they need to support your interests and you don't always have to take their shit if you think that it shouldn't apply. Treat them well but when it comes to the guitar, make them understand that this is something you need to do. Ultimately, there may be times when they're just worried that you're not changing in a way that they want you to. Michael Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave da Dude Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 I'm happy if I can just not get my wife p*****d off about my gear and practice (especially w/ amp). Gotta find my headphones (Koss Pro 4A) and fix them. Practice today went okay though. I got grilled about my new piece of gear today (Bass Echo, $16.57 on ebay). BTW James, just how many "extra" guitars do you have? Dave Gotta' geetar... got the amp. There must be SOMEthing else I... "need". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gtrmac Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 The fact that my wife accepts and supports my addiction to music was one of the things that kept us together. She gets a little stressed when I keep buying stuff but she even tolerates that for the most part. Now that my sons are becoming interested in playing music I have become actively involved in helping them to find fun in learning and making music and I think she really appreciates that too. She still has a problem with my attempts at singing though. I always worked with good singers before but recently I've been trying to improve my singing so that I could carry a few songs on a gig. Only just last week she said that I was beginning to sound good on a couple of songs so I guess there's hope! Mac Bowne G-Clef Acoustics Ltd. Osaka, Japan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tim Clark Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 Waitaminute. Right now my girlfriend tells me all the time she loves to hear me play...does this mean that when I get married that shit's gonna stop?? What the hell!! My music is like a movie for your ears - Frank Zappa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve LeBlanc Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 does this mean that when I get married that shit's gonna stop??definitly http://www.youtube.com/notesleb Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GetOffTheStageYouSuck Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 Tim, Yep. What's "romantic" in pre-marriage now is going to be "irritating" to her about 46 minutes into marriage. haha You could compose and play a wedding march for her and she'd be all "Oh, that was SO wonderful", as long as you don't try to play it afterwards: "Um, honey? I think maybe people want us to cut the cake now..?" I'm not saying that women aren't great but they have this agenda of changing you into the perfect husband and they know that they can't start until the deed's been signed, so to speak. Ask her who she admires most. If she answers Eric Clapton then ignore the hell out of what I just said--she's a keeper. If she names somebody that isn't a guitar player (odds are) then you are a big lump of clay and her goal is to mold you into *that* person. Wish somebody had told ME about all this... Michael Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coyote Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 My wife (then-girlfriend) loved hearing me play - right up til we moved in together. Then it became "Why do you have to be out gigging all night every weekend?" lol Originally posted by Tim Clark: Waitaminute. Right now my girlfriend tells me all the time she loves to hear me play...does this mean that when I get married that shit's gonna stop?? What the hell!! I used to think I was Libertarian. Until I saw their platform; now I know I'm no more Libertarian than I am RepubliCrat or neoCON or Liberal or Socialist. This ain't no track meet; this is football. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tim Clark Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 Originally posted by GetOffTheStageYouSuck: Ask her who she admires most. If she answers Eric Clapton then ignore the hell out of what I just said--she's a keeper. Phew, I think I may be OK. She loves Frank Zappa. So I'm thinking the answer is, marry this girl, or stay the hell away from the altar in the name of Rock and Roll :-D My music is like a movie for your ears - Frank Zappa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James-Italy Posted August 20, 2003 Author Share Posted August 20, 2003 ROFL! Coyote, yeah my wife used to love to watch me play out. Well, at least until two germans girls jumped on on stage and grinded me!!!! From that moment she gets a little jealous if she's not there.... don't know why??? My wife is pretty supportive, and also my second harshest critic. Hence, I was really pumped up when she actually gave me a compliment. Wives are NOT all bad, guys. C'mon! My Gear My Attempts at Music Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NMcGuitar Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 I'm pretty lucky. My wife likes to hear me play, and only rarely mentions that two of our livingroom "end tables" are actually PA speakers with tablecloths tossed over them (well, they've gotta go somewhere !). The only time my playing seems to bother her is when she's trying to work (home office), and I stand over her and pretty much play in her ear. What can I say, sometimes I wander around when I'm playing... I'm sure there are a few things she would like to change about me, but the music isn't one of them. May all your thoughts be random! - Neil www.McFaddenArts.com www.MikesGarageRocks.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michael saulnier Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 I love it when my wife says... "Oh, baby... that's HUGE..." . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ... Sound! guitplayer I'm still "guitplayer"! Check out my music if you like... http://www.michaelsaulnier.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TuskBuffer Posted August 21, 2003 Share Posted August 21, 2003 My wife says that she likes my playing, but whenever I want to show off to her, she just gives me the obligitory "That's nice." No hot monkey love or anything! Sometimes I wonder, what's the point? You've got the best guitar You've got the best amp Now get the best pick! http://www.tuskbuffer.net TuskBuffer Mammoth Ivory Guitar Picks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave da Dude Posted August 21, 2003 Share Posted August 21, 2003 TuskBuffer, "That's nice." is better than "Do you have to do that now." Dave Gotta' geetar... got the amp. There must be SOMEthing else I... "need". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mike Gug Posted August 21, 2003 Share Posted August 21, 2003 Quote from Dave's wife: "Do you have to do that now." I usually get that during sex... My biggest compliment came from my wife when she started singing to my playing. That was a good day. Just messing with you Dave. You're a stud (probably... aren't ALL guitar players?) Mikegug www.facebook.com/theresistancemusic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave da Dude Posted August 21, 2003 Share Posted August 21, 2003 Hey Mike, No problem. Re the singing thing. It's usually, ".. that's not right .." or ".. I can't sing it that way .." The only time (Just kidding, we had some good songs together, even recorded when drunk. Not so good the next day! ) we had absolutely no conflict with the guitar part and the singing was when she did (recorded with a friend) Janis Joplin's "Mercedes Benz". It's acapella (sp?)! Dave Gotta' geetar... got the amp. There must be SOMEthing else I... "need". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
revolead Posted August 22, 2003 Share Posted August 22, 2003 Try playing Mary Had a Little Lamb, that usually gets 'em in the sack. j/k Congrats on the compliments, but I suggest devising a technique to sound really bad, then you're wife will have to compliment your "sudden" improvement. In the mean time tell her if she doesn't let you practice, you'll spend more time with the Porsche thus realizing its not fast enough still, and threaten to buy a Lamborghini. That'll scare her, and she'll encourage the guitfiddle. Peace, rev Shut up and play. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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