The Bear Jew Posted November 6, 2002 Share Posted November 6, 2002 A few folks here are aware that my band recently (about 2 months ago) was forced to replace our bassist of about a year. He decided to join another band with major label dreams. While we were saddened to see him go, we bore him no ill will (honestly) and hoped he'd be happy with his new project. We auditioned new people and found someone we like. We moved on. Now, two months later, we're very pleased with our new bassist (who we call #5, since he's our fifth bassist). The shows have been great, everyone seems to love him (especially us) and we're in a good place all 'round. However, our ex bassist has started making waves. Apparently, he told his new band that he would be able to book them in the places where we play regularly. Since he never handled booking for us, he's not having much luck. In addition, he's been bothering my band's long-time friends and supporters to help him with booking and street team duties. Basically, he wants these folks to come to our shows and distribute his new band's demos and stickers. While he's certainly well within his rights to do this, this behavior seems kinda tacky to me. It's tasteless. This turned out to be the tip of the iceberg. Additionally, I also recently discovered that he had been attempting cyber sex with some of the under-age girls who regularly support us at all-ages shows. Apparently, some of these girls had crushes on him and would send him e-mails and instant messages. He regularly would reply to instant messages with requests for cyber sex, and when these largely bore no fruit, he ignored their e-mails and IMs. He even did disgusting stuff like e-mail pics of his penis to 15-year old girls. That's SO fucking repugant to me, and they all told me it was tiny as well. UGH! When he quit the band, these young ladies began getting e-mails requesting booking help from our hero, Mr. Bassman Zero. Luckily, most of these girls are smart enough to recognize that he's a two-faced piece of shit, so they haven't helped him. Even more distressing... he apparently has been maligning me to our friends and supporters for many months... even when he was still in the band! He told folks that I see them as purely a means to make money and that I don't care about the individuals who support us... Obviously, this is far from true (we barely break even!!), but it's incredibly saddening to imagine the horribly mixed message that these kids were getting! These are the kids who I spend hours helping with school issues, counseling about their lives and generally trying to be a good role model... not to mention playing music for them! This guy basically rubbed his slimey mind all over these kids. I wanna puke. So, since I'm good friends with most of our regular booking agents, a few of them have called me to ask about Mr. Bassman Zero's new band, since he's been pestering them for bookings using my name and exploiting the fact that he was in a band with me. While I prefer to take the high ground on such subjects, I certainly DON'T want to do anything to help this guy (or his band)now, and I definitely don't want to expose any more kids to his disgusting behavior. I have told these booking people that, in my opinion, he's a dirtbag, and his band isn't worth booking. I guess it worked, because he's having NO luck getting in the doors of these places. So guess what? He's pissed. He started posting nasty messages on my band's "fan site" message board, trying to rile me up. I won't play with him, though. I'm wayyyyy smarter than he is about this kind of stuff, but I have to say, this whole thing is VERY upsetting. I was always nice to this guy and tried to make him feel welcome and important to the band. I did break his balls about cancelling rehearsals, because he did that all the time, and it pissed me off. Rather than stew about it, I told him flat out that it pissed me off and that I expected him to be more professional. I know I also demanded that he come to shows looking like a fucking professional, but he knew about my standards when he joined the band... and he said it was fine with him. Other than that stuff, I accepted him like a brother and lent him gear (which he managed to break or lose) and respected his abilities immensely. In spite of everything, I feel that he's a highly talented musician with a lot of potential, but I have a feeling he's destined to fail in the long run. Sorry for the long-ass rant, but this has been getting to me. \m/ Erik "To fight and conquer in all your battles is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists of breaking the enemy's resistance without fighting." --Sun Tzu Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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