clock Posted June 27, 2002 Share Posted June 27, 2002 how did you do it without her calling off the marriage. It not a question of trust. Any fool knows that over half of all new marriages end in divorce, and a painful divorce at that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rod S Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 I didn't - I though I was getting screwed when I got divorced, but I ended up benefiting from the way the law works, and you could say she sort of got 'screwed' (not really, but according to her she did). My marriage ended after a year and half, and even though I lost some money in the deal, I wasn't even close to getting as screwed as I originally though. What are you worried about? This is a tricky issue. US Laws don't let her have a share of what you have before you got married,if that's what you're worried about. Talk to a lawyer. Know what your right are if things go wrong. It doens't hurt to do some homework. Korg Kronos X73 / ARP Odyssey / Motif ES Rack / Roland D-05 / JP-08 / SE-05 / Jupiter Xm / Novation Mininova / NL2X / Waldorf Pulse II MBP-LOGIC American Deluxe P-Bass, Yamaha RBX760 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
where02190 Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 You're nuts if you don't. Take it from someone who learned the hard way. If she truly loves you it won't make any difference to her, if she doesn't.....better safe than sorry, Probate's a bitch. Hope this is helpful. NP Recording Studios Analog approach to digital recording. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David R. Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 I'm kind of wondering if I should do the same. The ring is on her finger, vows could come soon. Check [url=http://www.nolo.com/]this[/url] out. They have books on everything legal, and were banned for a bit in Texas so you know it has to be good. :D -David R. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hippie Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 My theory is, if you have to worry about a prenup., maybe you shouldn't be getting married. Matt In two days, it won't matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
george costanza Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 I never have but, like Robert Johnson, I have signed a [i]preternatural[/i] agreement! :eek: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chip McDonald Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 [quote]Originally posted by Hippie: [b]My theory is, if you have to worry about a prenup., maybe you shouldn't be getting married. Matt[/b][/quote]Yeah, that's totally obvious. If you truly love someone, you trust them. If you don't know what they're going to do in the future - you don't truly love them, do you? There's no "but"s about it. The problem is that today that's such a fanciful notion it's not even considered in the equation. If there's some semblance of a reason for NOT being married in the future, then the whole concept doesn't make any sense. Which is probably doesn't anymore, in a practical manner these days. I have yet to see one that has worked outside of my parent's generation, and I can't imagine it myself. Guitar Lessons in Augusta Georgia: www.chipmcdonald.com Eccentric blog: https://chipmcdonaldblog.blogspot.com/ / "big ass windbag" - Bruce Swedien Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hippie Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 << ....and I can't imagine it myself.>> If you can't imagine it, it will never happen. If you allow that shadow of doubt to enter the equation of marriage (or anything), you are already 'behind the 8 ball'. -Never take too light the power of suggestion and self-fulfilling prophecy. It sounds like voodoo, but the older I get the more I believe this is true. Think about this, if in your mind you are convinced something will not work out, you will have to prove yourself wrong to make it happen. Nobody wants to prove themselves wrong, therefore what you think will eventually be the fact. Matt In two days, it won't matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-_dup1 Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 [quote]Originally posted by Hippie: [b]My theory is, if you have to worry about a prenup., maybe you shouldn't be getting married. Matt[/b][/quote]:thu: Marriage is [i]supposed[/i] to last for the rest of your and/or your spouse's life... If for some reason you can't see that happening, you'd be better off with any other arrangement than marriage... IMO, of course. ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wewus432 Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 originally posted by George Costanza: [b]I never have but, like Robert Johnson, I have signed a preternatural agreement![/b] Who is this stranger called Costanza, always with the lavilier comments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rod S Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 [quote]Originally posted by Hippie: [b] If you can't imagine it, it will never happen. If you allow that shadow of doubt to enter the equation of marriage (or anything), you are already 'behind the 8 ball'. -Never take too light the power of suggestion and self-fulfilling prophecy. It sounds like voodoo, but the older I get the more I believe this is true. Think about this, if in your mind you are convinced something will not work out, you will have to prove yourself wrong to make it happen. Nobody wants to prove themselves wrong, therefore what you think will eventually be the fact. [/b][/quote]I have to disagree with you Matt. It takes two to make a marriage work. It may never cross YOUR mind, but it may cross HERS. (Don't mean to make it sound personal, it's just the point I'm trying to make) I can say it had never crossed my mind. Didn't stop it from happening, though. Korg Kronos X73 / ARP Odyssey / Motif ES Rack / Roland D-05 / JP-08 / SE-05 / Jupiter Xm / Novation Mininova / NL2X / Waldorf Pulse II MBP-LOGIC American Deluxe P-Bass, Yamaha RBX760 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rod S Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 [quote]Originally posted by Hippie: [b]My theory is, if you have to worry about a prenup., maybe you shouldn't be getting married. Matt[/b][/quote]I don't agree fully with the prenup, but I do tell people to their homework. 5 years ago I would never have though about, but, oh well. I got married with the attitude that it would never happen to me, no matter what. I'm glad I got a bit wiser. Sounds like you have a happy marriage, I wish you all the best. :thu: But.... bad things happen to good people who do the right thing (or who think they do the right thing), and in retrospect, thinking that there's a possibility that it may go wrong is part of human nature, I think, and doesn't necessarily put you in a mindset that will lead the marriage to fail. Korg Kronos X73 / ARP Odyssey / Motif ES Rack / Roland D-05 / JP-08 / SE-05 / Jupiter Xm / Novation Mininova / NL2X / Waldorf Pulse II MBP-LOGIC American Deluxe P-Bass, Yamaha RBX760 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rod S Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 I'm still wondering for the people who said they would, or did, what you included (or would include) in your prenup agreement. Korg Kronos X73 / ARP Odyssey / Motif ES Rack / Roland D-05 / JP-08 / SE-05 / Jupiter Xm / Novation Mininova / NL2X / Waldorf Pulse II MBP-LOGIC American Deluxe P-Bass, Yamaha RBX760 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DC Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 Just live with her for seven years and then she'll be your 'comman law wife.' Plus you'll know her quite well by then. -David http://www.garageband.com/artist/MichaelangelosMuse Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gator Wing Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 If only I had met a woman wealthy enough to want me to sign a prenup... [img]http://www.gifs.net/animate/$.gif[/img] There are two theories about arguing with a woman. Neither one works. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
george costanza Posted June 28, 2002 Share Posted June 28, 2002 [quote]Originally posted by TheWewus: [b]Who is this stranger called Costanza, always with the lavilier comments.[/b][/quote]"...[i]lav[/i]ilier..."?! Wew, (I can call you "Wew", can't I ?), you should be [i]strung up[/i] for that one ! ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sylver Posted June 29, 2002 Share Posted June 29, 2002 Just give up any sense of money or wealth when you marry her. Let her have everything, including control over all the bills. If's she's as good as my wife is with the bills, if you ever split, there will be nothing left to fight over. :D Oh, and don't get divorced in any state that has alimony. I really don't know what to put here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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