strat0124 Posted December 20, 2004 Share Posted December 20, 2004 Bad boys? Bad girls? Everyone has the potential to be bad..........not everyone knows when is the appropriate time to do so. Down like a dollar comin up against a yen, doin pretty good for the shape I'm in Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee Flier Posted December 20, 2004 Share Posted December 20, 2004 Thanks for clearing that up Ken. I think you're right that a lot of women are instinctively attracted to a guy who projects strength or power and confidence (whether or not the image is accurate). And for the most part it's a fairly superficial attraction, like the kind guys often get for centerfold girls. People with a clue recognize that anybody who's that hung up on their image and on playing games is likely to have bigger personal problems and are definitely NOT relationship material. But it seems that image is what attracts a lot of people who are looking for an escape from reality, are on the rebound, or whatever. People who are temporarily or permanently in a pretty insecure state of mind. Like geekgurl, I dated a few guys like that when I was younger, and for pretty much the same reasons as her. And they were fun for what they were, but I never, ever thought they were marriage or even long term relationship material! When you're in your teens and 20's, I think it's pretty normal to want an adventurous type, somebody who's a thrill a minute to be with and so forth. In fact I think if you don't go through that phase (and it's the same with guys, I think most guys need to be physically and sexually adventurous when they're young if possible), it's likely to lead to trouble later e.g. the middle aged married dude leaving his wife for the stripper. But if you don't grow out of that phase or recognize it at the time so you can enjoy it for what it is (rather than thinking it's something it's not), that sucks. My taste in men now is nothing like in my 20's, and I wouldn't have expected it to be. This doesn't mean I want a "boring guy" - I find the guys that attract me now to be just as exciting and sexy if not more so, than the ones I liked in my 20's (although someone in their 20's probably would not think they were ). It just means that the things that excite me and project confidence and security to me now are things that are mostly below the surface. It's hard to be somebody who wants depth in a society that's oriented toward surface image. I guess the way I try to look at it is: you only need one person to be your mate, and that means the vast majority of other people are going to be wrong for you, and some of them in ways that seem like a pattern. But it's not really their fault that they aren't what you need, and it's not your fault for not being what they want either. It just sucks sometimes, to somewhat understate things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PBBPaul Posted December 20, 2004 Share Posted December 20, 2004 Well, Lee just made my point. Certain women being attracted to "Bad Boys" is really no different than certain men being attracted to "Bad Girls". I mean silicone filled stripper/porn star types don't hold much appeal to me but I've known a lot of guys who make a habit of pursuing that sort of adventure. Our new and improved website Today's sample tune: Lonesome One Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angelo Clematide Posted December 20, 2004 Share Posted December 20, 2004 Lee: "were marriage or even long term relationship material!" -Peace, Love, and Potahhhhto Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KenElevenShadows Posted December 21, 2004 Author Share Posted December 21, 2004 Originally posted by PBBPaul: I mean silicone filled stripper/porn star types don't hold much appeal to me but I've known a lot of guys who make a habit of pursuing that sort of adventure.This sort of person bores the piss outta me...naturally, I am attracted to beautiful women, but this kinda person is just a total turn-off for me. Also, I went out with a couple of attractive actresses a few years ago, and while they were funny and intelligent and not shallow, their tendency to always be "on" (constantly 'performing', networking, seeking attention, self-centered or asking about how you perceive them in different contexts), if these two are to be any sort of representation. But it's difficult *not* to meet actresses when you live in Los Angeles and play guitar in a decent rock band. For some reason they seem drawn to rock guys, sometimes even guys like me who are not really a "bad boy". Lee, I think you're right in saying that image is so much of it. Ken Lee Photography - photos and books Eleven Shadows ambient music The Mercury Seven-cool spacey music Linktree to various sites Instagram Nightaxians Video Podcast Eleven Shadows website Ken Lee Photography Pinterest Page Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve LeBlanc Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 women are CRAZY! http://www.youtube.com/notesleb Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anifa Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 Originally posted by Steve LeBlanc: women are CRAZY! Men make them that way! You can take the man away from his music, but you can't take the music out of the man. Books by Craig Anderton through Amazon Sweetwater: Bruce Swedien\'s "Make Mine Music" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve LeBlanc Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 SEE!!! http://www.youtube.com/notesleb Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
miroslav Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 Originally posted by Ani: Originally posted by Steve LeBlanc: women are CRAZY! Men make them that way! I dunno Ani... ...coming from a US Postal Service employee... ...that might be a tough sell! miroslav - miroslavmusic.com "Just because it happened to you, it doesn't mean it's important." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anifa Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 ... No, I was crazy before I got to the Post Office because ANYONE in their right mind would not choose the USPS as a career job and expect to have a life. Especially at Christmas time. You can take the man away from his music, but you can't take the music out of the man. Books by Craig Anderton through Amazon Sweetwater: Bruce Swedien\'s "Make Mine Music" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Botch. Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 Originally posted by Ani: ...Especially at Christmas time.Speaking of which, where's my damn presents!!?!?!? I should have a lot more loot by now! Botch "Eccentric language often is symptomatic of peculiar thinking" - George Will www.puddlestone.net Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anifa Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 Oh dang, Botch, that must have been those packages marked "Fragile" that some disgruntled Postal Worker made sure to throw it first into the bottom of a container and then throw in a 70 lb box in right on top of it? Through all of the shreds of paper when the package burst, along with the other umpteen dozens of packages the same, we were unable to put the pieces back together to determine one definite address. Please check with your local Post Office and make your damaged mails claim. Of course we all know that I'm joking... Or do we??? You can take the man away from his music, but you can't take the music out of the man. Books by Craig Anderton through Amazon Sweetwater: Bruce Swedien\'s "Make Mine Music" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Botch. Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 I hope yer joking, that was probably my nuclear shipment.... Botch "Eccentric language often is symptomatic of peculiar thinking" - George Will www.puddlestone.net Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff Klopmeyer Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 Don't you mean "nucular"? Don't contradict your commander in chief, soldier! - Jeff Marketing Communications for MI/Pro Audio My solo music and stuff They Stole My Crayon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan South Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 A better question might be, "Why do quiet guys covet the women who chase bad boys and ignore the quiet girls?" The Black Knight always triumphs! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anifa Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 Why don't the quiet guys ask the quiet and shy girls out more often so that they don't fall prey to the guys that hound them for dates all the time; the bad boys? Instead, the nice quiet guys fall prey to the "bad girls" that flaunt and tease and make things "easy" for them to overcome their fear of rejection. Although it's more of a day for equality than it was years ago, some girls will NOT ask a guy out due to moral upbringing. If the eye contact is there.... silly boy, don't ignore the signs and wait for that quiet girl you like to ask YOU out... she AIN'T gonna do it, not if she's a lady. You can take the man away from his music, but you can't take the music out of the man. Books by Craig Anderton through Amazon Sweetwater: Bruce Swedien\'s "Make Mine Music" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anifa Posted December 21, 2004 Share Posted December 21, 2004 Originally posted by Botch.: I hope yer joking, that was probably my nuclear shipment.... And I'm only halfway joking on that Botch. We've got some real a-holes at the Post Office just like anywhere else. I remember back 20 years ago in first starting the Post Office; I was a clerk working Parcels during Christmas rush and I came across a package marked Fragile. I asked the old timer where we were to put packages marked Fragile and he took the package from my hands and slammed it into a container making sure that you heard the shattering of glass. When I got extremely defensive about what had just occurred, he told me that there was a special paid service that people could buy to received the "Special Handling" of their mails; but if the service was not purchased, the marking of the words meant nothing. I was new and naive to Postal policies back then, but with my knowledge of Postal regulations and acceptable handling of the mails that I've obtained over the years; I would have got the guy fired through a claim to the Postal Inspection service. It still happens, whether by intention of accident, because as I was training a group of new Christmas casuals "temporary help", I came across a package marked Fragile that you could hear the glass rattling around inside of the box... made me think of 20 years ago; however, I told the new hires to set the package aside when possible and place it on top of the full container. With so many packages marked "fragile" due to lack of consumer knowledge of the paid service for "Special Handliing", it's hard to hold the packages out for the top layer... You can take the man away from his music, but you can't take the music out of the man. Books by Craig Anderton through Amazon Sweetwater: Bruce Swedien\'s "Make Mine Music" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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