He wants me back...

[picker]

Believe it or not, I got an email yesterday from the harp player who raked me over the coals and out of his band a month or so ago, and he's asking if I'll consider playing on a band demo he's trying to make as a 'hired gun', or even rejoining the band.

Since I left, he's lost two drummers, a keyboard player, the guitarist who replaced me, and now his bass player, the only guy who's stuck with him through all this junk. He's mighty contrite, and willing to pay me for the demo sessions whether I join up or not. I figure I'll do the sessions, and if he's not a complete dipwad during those, maybe I'll come back inn with him. I hated wasting all the time I spent working on the material.

[GuitarPlayerFL]

Believe it or not, I got an email yesterday from the harp player who raked me over the coals and out of his band a month or so ago, and he's asking if I'll consider playing on a band demo he's trying to make as a 'hired gun', or even rejoining the band.

Since I left, he's lost two drummers, a keyboard player, the guitarist who replaced me, and now his bass player, the only guy who's stuck with him through all this junk.

 

I would tell him to F.O.

 

According to your info, it appears he doesn't treat people well enough if all those players leave.

[BrianWren]

I think your approach is a good one. If the message is sufficiently loud form all that has happened to him, perhaps he actually has had an epiphany. In my opinion, everyone ought to be afforded the opporunity to change. (He who will change will change, of course, without permission from others. What I mean is that they should not be held in the esteem they once had forever with no opportunity to be seen differently...)

[Guitarzan]

do what is right for you Picker.

 

[Bluesape]

Get some cash up front......

[-Will-]

I would treat it like a business deal, take the money and see how it went, if things developed from there and he's a changed man, then maybe give him a partial refund. But I'd be cautious, I wouldn't want to be burned twice. But I think you're taking the right path.

[Terrell]

Don't go through life trying to teach adults life lessons... It's futile, unhealthy and not productive.

 

Know who he is and expect what he delivers. If that's more than you can swallow, spit him out...

 

[Caevan O'Shite]

Do the 'session player' thing with him IF you're not uncomfortable with that; but I'd be surprised if anything lasting or positive would come from re-joining his "band" (if there is a band other than him and you and whomever else he can talk into it now), given what you've posted before...

 

Follow your gut-instincts, don't second-guess 'em.

[miroslav]

Get an apology...set some ground rules...and get it in writing if money is involved or get some money up front.

 

And if he gives you a funny look...

...just tell him you don't want to get burned again...however, if things work out, then all will be fogiven & forgotten, and you can move on from there.

 

 

[Griffinator]

Get some cash up front......

 

+1

[super combinator]

Picker

 

With band memebers still not hanging around this guy chances are he hasnt changed much if any(maybe even worse now!)

 

I wud say before you do this you get $$$$ all in advance

 

grant

good luck

[Mortal Engines]

The other thing is...did you make GOOD music with him? Did you enjoy actually playing in the band when you were playing? People can be tools from time to time and hey, maybe homeboy deserves one more chance (maybe he was in a real funky point in his personal life....we've all been there). If the first two questions are yes...maybe that's ok. There are plenty of bands with members who don't necessarily get along but the music is good enough that they can make a go of it. If the answer is no, then NO amount of money is gonna make it worth the BS. Mind you if this guy is a real dick he will hold the money over you while expecting you to take whatever BS he dishes out since NOW you are his employee.