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I wanna hear about the angry groupies haha!
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Indeed.
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Bone Muskeleton, I agree it is a bit concerning having guys mad at me, but to be fair to them, it wasn't until after the second guffaw that they got sour. Normally there's a semi-serious 'you f-ed up but you're still my guy' kinda vibe. I'm pretty sure they aren't STILL mad right now today, but we'll see how practice goes Wednesday...
There is some subtext to this whole thing though. It's a bit much to get into, but the short of it is, the band leader has an evolving vision of the band's style, and based on certain comments from certain folks, it appears that maybe some of the longtime members don't want to go in that direction. The problem is he's sort of putting me in the middle of it. He's essentially asking me, the new guy, to be the torchbearer of the style adjustment, and it's starting to seem like they're holding it against me.
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Moral: don't bring it up at rehearsal.
Wasn"t planning on it haha!
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First off, major thanks all! I am feeling much better now that I've had some time to reflect. And practice. And talk to a few of my band mates. And read your words of encouragement and advice. I can't respond to everything, but I did want to reply to a few comments.
For me, it seems like when something happens, I'm more likely to get rattled the rest of the gig.So true. After the first guffaw I felt like I was on pins and needles the rest of the night.
I've been gigging for almost 20 years and have triggered the totally wrong patch a few times. Now these events are just funny stories.I'm sure mine will be one of those someday. But right now half the band is kinda pissed at me.
Play another gig!Absolutely, but that's two whole weeks away lol.
you're now a proper musician.So I've been doing it wrong all thee years? Haha!
I have had crazy memory lapses with songs which I have performed literally hundreds of times. Total mind blank moments....That's exactly what happened. Hate that feeling.
The difference between this happening to some someone with lots of experience and someone relatively little is in how they cope with it. You learn to cover your mistakes: either by keeping playing something vaguely appropriate or stopping altogether and letting the band carry it until you are ready to rejoin them.Yeah that's a great point. I've got to figure out a strategy to get through tough spots like these. Right now I'm just all panic.
You need to forgive yourself and simply accept the valuable gifts which these painful performance experiences are offering you: the knowledge of just how easy it is to go wrong at that point and the incentive to work out what can be done to minimise the chance of this happening next time...So true.
Do you have a day job? What do you do when you make a mistake on you day job?Apologize and work harder. Which is what I'm doing right now.
No one who is trying to play well wants to be the one making the mistake -- especially right at that moment! But if bandmates work well together, they tend to smile or laugh together (rather than be upset) because we all do it. And they tend to try to help bail each other out by finding a way to carry on. Sometimes it even makes for one of the more interesting parts of the show for the band because it's not routine! It also turns out that this is where some of the best stories come from!Funny you mention that! On the first flub, our drummer actually started taking apart his hihat to give me some cover. Now that's love lol! On the second one, the lead singer tried to get the whole band going doing something totally new, but it was to no avail! He tried though... They're also the only two band members who aren't pissed at me right now lol.
Last night I blew an intro because I missed my sustain pedal - a couple of seconds of dead air. Audience didn't know or care.Nobody dies.
Only a few people notice.
Even fewer remember at the end of the tune.
That's an important point you both brought up, especially given that they type of music this band plays is half cover (modern top 40 hh/r&b) and half original material. So the crowd often, literally, can't know when we mess up.
staple a note to your forehead to remind yourself about those two instances that won"t happen again.Well, maybe a Post-it instead.....
Hah!
Bad gigs?? Screwing up royally?? I"ve made a career of it,,, the cure for grief is motion,,,I'll have to remember that one Thanks!
how many songs did you play? 12? 40?Eight. It was a 45 minute set because we were one of several bands/acts. I dunno if that makes it better or worse...
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Wow thanks all for the advice, the wisdom and experience here is evident. And thanks for welcoming me! I"ll have more to say later, but right now I have to go make a big pile of french toast for the family.
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First post; been lurking for about a year, after I got back into regular gigging after a couple decades of mostly being away from the stage.
So anyway, had an awful gig today. I screwed up majorly, twice. One where I totally fell asleep on the intro where I"m the one who leads the song in, and the other where I had the wrong sound up, on an intro where I"m the one who leads the song in. And to make it worse, it was some stupid auto-accompaniment type sound with Arps and drums and the whole works.
Being a perfectionist and my own biggest critic, I"m absolutely killing myself right now. Like... can"t sleep and can"t think about anything else. My wife thinks it"s rather funny and not a big deal, and I guess she"s right ultimately, I mean I didn"t botch a surgery or somesuch. But good grief that was embarrassing. How do you all deal when this happens? I"m trying to remind myself of my successes (made it through 25 gigs with no major hiccups), but it"s not working right now. Help.
How to get over a bad gig?
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Yeah, I'm pretty much over it. thanks in no small part to you all. So big thanks to everybody who contributed!