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Yeah, I'm pretty much over it. thanks in no small part to you all. So big thanks to everybody who contributed!

I wanna hear about the angry groupies haha!

Indeed.

Bone Muskeleton, I agree it is a bit concerning having guys mad at me, but to be fair to them, it wasn't until after the second guffaw that they got sour. Normally there's a semi-serious 'you f-ed up but you're still my guy' kinda vibe. I'm pretty sure they aren't STILL mad right now today, but we'll see how practice goes Wednesday... There is some subtext to this whole thing though. It's a bit much to get into, but the short of it is, the band leader has an evolving vision of the band's style, and based on certain comments from certain folks, it appears that maybe some of the longtime members don't want to go in that direction. The problem is he's sort of putting me in the middle of it. He's essentially asking me, the new guy, to be the torchbearer of the style adjustment, and it's starting to seem like they're holding it against me.

Wasn"t planning on it haha!

First off, major thanks all! I am feeling much better now that I've had some time to reflect. And practice. And talk to a few of my band mates. And read your words of encouragement and advice. I can't respond to everything, but I did want to reply to a few comments. So true. After the first guffaw I felt like I was on pins and needles the rest of the night. I'm sure mine will be one of those someday. But right now half the band is kinda pissed at me. Absolutely, but that's two whole weeks away lol. So I've been doing it wrong all thee years? Haha! That's exactly what happened. Hate that feeling. Yeah that's a great point. I've got to figure out a strategy to get through tough spots like these. Right now I'm just all panic. So true. Apologize and work harder. Which is what I'm doing right now. Funny you mention that! On the first flub, our drummer actually started taking apart his hihat to give me some cover. Now that's love lol! On the second one, the lead singer tried to get the whole band going doing something totally new, but it was to no avail! He tried though... They're also the only two band members who aren't pissed at me right now lol. That's an important point you both brought up, especially given that they type of music this band plays is half cover (modern top 40 hh/r&b) and half original material. So the crowd often, literally, can't know when we mess up. Hah! I'll have to remember that one Thanks! Eight. It was a 45 minute set because we were one of several bands/acts. I dunno if that makes it better or worse...

Wow thanks all for the advice, the wisdom and experience here is evident. And thanks for welcoming me! I"ll have more to say later, but right now I have to go make a big pile of french toast for the family.

First post; been lurking for about a year, after I got back into regular gigging after a couple decades of mostly being away from the stage. So anyway, had an awful gig today. I screwed up majorly, twice. One where I totally fell asleep on the intro where I"m the one who leads the song in, and the other where I had the wrong sound up, on an intro where I"m the one who leads the song in. And to make it worse, it was some stupid auto-accompaniment type sound with Arps and drums and the whole works. Being a perfectionist and my own biggest critic, I"m absolutely killing myself right now. Like... can"t sleep and can"t think about anything else. My wife thinks it"s rather funny and not a big deal, and I guess she"s right ultimately, I mean I didn"t botch a surgery or somesuch. But good grief that was embarrassing. How do you all deal when this happens? I"m trying to remind myself of my successes (made it through 25 gigs with no major hiccups), but it"s not working right now. Help.