MathOfInsects Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Hoo boy. Fun times. Quote Now out! "Mind the Gap," a 24-song album of new material. www.joshweinstein.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MAJUSCULE Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 What kind of beer do you like? Quote Eric Website Gear page Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MathOfInsects Posted January 28, 2016 Author Share Posted January 28, 2016 Jumbo. Quote Now out! "Mind the Gap," a 24-song album of new material. www.joshweinstein.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnotherScott Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I own a whole lot more keyboards now then I did when I was married. See, it's not OT after all. Quote Maybe this is the best place for a shameless plug! Our now not-so-new new video at https://youtu.be/3ZRC3b4p4EI is a 40 minute adaptation of T. S. Eliot's "Prufrock" - check it out! And hopefully I'll have something new here this year. ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danny Linguini Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 It's never fun, regardless of whose choice it is. You usually run the gamut of emotions, and then suddenly you find yourself in a new life while the last one slides into a distant memory. Thoughts are with ya, bro ... hope everything goes as smoothly as possible. Quote D-10; M50; SP4-7; SP6 I'm a fairly accomplished hack. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
richforman Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Haha same here and I play a lot more gigs too, and have more fun at them! Quote Rich Forman Yamaha MOXF8, Korg Kronos 2-61, Roland Fantom X7, Ferrofish B4000+ organ module, Roland VR-09, EV ZLX12P, K&M Spider Pro stand, Yamaha S80, Korg Trinity Plus Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drawback Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 If she sues over gear, let her have the Roland amps. We won't say anything. Quote ____________________________________ Rod Here for the gear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MathOfInsects Posted January 28, 2016 Author Share Posted January 28, 2016 Best laughs I've had all day. Thanks for this. If she does sue over gear, then I guess all stands become "ex" stands. Quote Now out! "Mind the Gap," a 24-song album of new material. www.joshweinstein.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mate stubb Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Quote Moe --- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
timwat Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Been there (2006). Hit rock bottom, for a number of years. This family here helped me survive. Looking back, I'm a better man that I never would have become except for all that pain. But I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Quote .. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DulceLabs.com Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 So.... What'd you do? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doerfler Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 best to you and your children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KenElevenShadows Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 That sounds painful. Sorry, man, and best wishes for everything. And I hope that wherever the divorce goes, it is amicable. Quote Ken Lee Photography - photos and books Eleven Shadows ambient music The Mercury Seven-cool spacey music Linktree to various sites Instagram Nightaxians Video Podcast Eleven Shadows website Ken Lee Photography Pinterest Page Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BluesKeys Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Been there 3 times. It gets easier!!! Lol Good luck to you I know it will turn out for you. My 1st plaintiff said it best "you should have married music" now I finally have and life is good. Quote Jimmy Those are my principles, and if you don't like them... well, I have others. Groucho NEW BAND CHECK THEM OUT www.steveowensandsummertime.com www.jimmyweaver.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I-missRichardTee Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 About as painful ( particularly especially if kids are involved) as anything life can dish out. A tearing apart of ones ideals, heart, belief in oneself even. A mutha. After the pain abates a bit, introspect so you can more carefully choose the next woman in your life. This is NOT a blame game. Life is just thrown at us, when we are really not quite prepared. I think an OT topic ought to be how to get along with a mate. Quote You don't have ideas, ideas have you We see the world, not as it is, but as we are. "One mans food is another mans poison". I defend your right to speak hate. Tolerance to a point, not agreement Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bill H. Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I own a whole lot more keyboards now then I did when I was married. See, it's not OT after all. Definitely truth there On a more serious note, if you tend to drink a lot watch your alcohol consumption. I slipped from heavy drinking into full blown alcoholism, which probably did more damage than the divorce itself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Philip Clark Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 You know why divorce is so expensive? BECAUSE IT'S WORTH IT. Quote Soul, R&B, Pop from Los Angeles http://philipclark.com Cannonball Gerald Albright Signature Alto, Yamaha YC73, Fender Rhodes, Roland Juno-106, Yamaha MX61, Roland VR-09, MicroKorg XL, Maschine Mikro, Yamaha Reface CP, Roland MKS-50 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparetime Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I own a whole lot more keyboards now then I did when I was married. See, it's not OT after all. Definitely truth there On a more serious note, if you tend to drink a lot watch your alcohol consumption. I slipped from heavy drinking into full blown alcoholism, which probably did more damage than the divorce itself. +2 Almost done with mine. Fortunately the kid is in college. It's been a great opportunity to take stock and learn what's really important. Work hard to evade the negative emotions. Never forget: it will end and you will survive. Mediate if you can, not easier but way better than court. (my keyboards are starting to multiply, odd) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groove58 Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 (Paraphrasing a scene in "City Slickers") - "What was your worst day ever?" - "The day I got divorced." [... then the whole harrowing story] - "Wow. What was your best day ever?" - "Same day." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hatricklov Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 That sucks... sorry to hear it. Now that I typed that, I remember a couple instances saying that to a newly divorced person and their responses were the same... "Why [sorry]? I'm not." I only hope this doesn't damage your sense of humor. Your comments are always either insightful, hilarious or somehow both... and I always look forward to them. God bless and best of luck to you! Quote MainStage; Hammond SK1-73; Roland XP-80, JV-90, JV-1080, JV-1010, AX-1; Korg microSAMPLER; Boss DR-880; Beat Buddy; Neo Instruments Ventilator; TC Electronic ND-1 Nova Delay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tusker Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Sorry to hear that Math. It's a tough period but it will get better. Sending good thoughts your way. ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J. Dan Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I went through it several years ago. It's a bumpy road. A few words of advice: +1 to the Alcohol comments above...I went through a phase where I started drinking pretty heavily and it was affecting my job and other parts of my life. Once it was all over I got re-energized and sort of settled back into normal but it was a dangerous time. Dating a young hot chick 13 years younger than you whose sister is married to the bass player may seem like a good idea, but trust me, it doesn't make the whole divorce process any easier. Quote Dan Acoustic/Electric stringed instruments ranging from 4 to 230 strings, hammered, picked, fingered, slapped, and plucked. Analog and Digital Electronic instruments, reeds, and throat/mouth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CowboyNQ Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Sending good thoughts your way. ... +1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MathOfInsects Posted January 28, 2016 Author Share Posted January 28, 2016 I am out and will post more later, but man: suffice to say I am quite glad I overcame my hesitation and posted that here. Really perceptive and funny replies, that are making a difference in real time. This place is alright. Quote Now out! "Mind the Gap," a 24-song album of new material. www.joshweinstein.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joe Muscara Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I don't have anything to add but best wishes, man. It's just like a band breakup but with more gear to divide, right? Quote "I'm so crazy, I don't know this is impossible! Hoo hoo!" - Daffy Duck "The good news is that once you start piano you never have to worry about getting laid again. More time to practice!" - MOI Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
piano39 Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I can't believe that I am going through this. 34 years married. About six months ago, I noticed my wife was really distant. Asked her what was going on? Ten minutes of silence later, she said that she wanted to move out. Refuses to get counseling. She just wants out. There seems to be nothing that I can do. So, she moved out (at my expense, since she has no income) and I am stuck. Right now, I am ruined emotionally. In a few months, I will probably be ruined financially. Can't believe it. I thought that my marriage was the best thing in my life. Quote Yamaha Motif XF6, Yamaha AN200, Logic Pro X, Arturia Microbrute, Behringer Model D, Yamaha UX-3 Acoustic Piano, assorted homemade synth modules Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazzmammal Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Been there and done that as well. It's emotionally draining regardless of how easy or hard it is. Hopefully it's not terrible for you. All I can say is do whatever you can to keep the lawyers out of it. In California everything both of you earned, everything both of you acquired as far as assets and possessions belongs to both of you equally. That's the short version. You've been 50/50 partners in everything since you got married. It's irrelevant if you've had separate bank accounts, she has her car and you have your car or any of that. 50/50, that's it. You don't need to be paying attorneys thousands to argue about that split. It will wind up 50/50 unless one of you voluntarily concedes something. The other thing is taxes. Your filing status is whatever your spousal situation was at midnight December 31st of 2015. It sounds like you were married so your choices are filing married joint or married separate. That's it. Filing separate also costs you so if you're on any kind of speaking terms at all, file joint and do it now before she decides to file on her own. Just tell her she gets half of the savings from filing separate. Also, it's illegal to file single if you're still married. The only exception is if you had a formal legal separation agreement in force prior to the end of last year. This info is on irs.gov or you can PM me. Good luck man, this ain't easy... Bob Quote Hammond SK1, Mojo 61, Kurzweil PC3, Korg Pa3x, Roland FA06, Band in a Box, Real Band, Studio One, too much stuff... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tonysounds Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Hey brother....we live a lot longer than the institution of marriage allowed for initially; marriage is a manmade construct to further the economic status of the families (we've evolved, but maybe the institution has not); Better to move on and be happy then stay where you are and be UNhappy. Sorry for your grief, but keep looking forward! Quote Hitting "Play" does NOT constitute live performance. -Me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doug Robinson Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Sorry to hear you're going through this. I hope my story will not bug you, and hopefully it will budge your perspective a tad now and then as you go through the worst of it. I was married 25 years, a truly excellent relationship. I basically lost my mind at 55 and felt an uncontrollable urge to flee. We talked, we went to therapy, but in the end decided it was better to part as friends. I did a dumb thing and got right into a new relationship. It was crazy passionate and exciting, but she was all wrong for me. Lots of breakups and get-back-togethers. My ex and I toyed with the idea of reuniting during one of the breakups but didn't do it. 2.5 years later, I finally gave up on the new relationship. My ex had found a great guy. We stayed as close as we could and then tragically she caught cancer and passed away. Before that happened, however, a friend introduced me to the right new partner. She and I have been together for almost 2 years now and in fact just returned from Vegas last night, where we got legally married! Big ceremony will happen in Feb but this love--completely unexpected and out of the blue--feels just right. It can happen, and it probably will but not when you're looking for it. In the meantime, I wish you peace and good music--my playing really took off when I was suffering the worst! Quote Doug Robinson www.dougrobinson.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yannis D Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 +1 for the good thoughts Try to keep your energy, the road can be bumpy but always something good awaits at its end Quote Be grateful for what you've got - a Nord, a laptop and two hands Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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